Here's the list of things everyone told me I'd need but didn't/don't and people actually bought me a few of the following items.
Pacifiers are absolutely, 100% unnecessary. Babies spend months inside of their mothers sucking on their hands, why is it that when they come out of their mothers many people feel the urge to stick a fake, often plastic or other man made material into babies' mouths? Because it makes them quite. It doesn't teach them to self soothe it teaches them to soothe themselves with a fake object. Self soothing would mean they are soothing themselves, with lets say... their hands.
Strollers are not bad, but they're not great either. Everyone wanted to get me a stroller and my in-laws actually did, before finding out it wasn't a good fit for Sonja, Myself or her Great Grandmother. I love attachment parenting and the amount of human contact and the bond that is created for a mother and child, or father and child. Sonja is always held by myself, Husband, or family or worn by myself, Husband or family and friends. She loves to be in peoples' arms. Once and a while we do set her down and put her in a bouncy chair or in her play pin, but mostly only when I have to pee. Lots of people said that parents need strollers for when they go shopping, to Disneyland or somewhere like that, but I have NO intentions of taking Cupcake to anywhere like that. We don't plan to take her to the mall, since we're avoiding the consumerism indoctrination that our culture forces on everyone. We don't want to take her to Disneyland, or anywhere else promoting fake over real. And when we go on hikes we want to hold her, so being strollerless? not so bad.
You all know this about me, I believe breastfeeding is normal, natural and the only option for feeding babies. This does not mean I don't understand that sometimes mothers really can't make enough milk, or that sometimes babies are away from their mothers for short or long periods of time. But did you know you can use a cup to feed your baby?! you can! here's a few links to see how : Link 1 or Link 2. If breast to mouth is not an option, than the World Health Organization recommends; expressed milk from the baby's own mother, milk from a healthy donor (expressed or from their breast), THEN Formula! Formula is the LAST option, not the 2nd. AND you can put formula into a cup, reducing cavities. Neat Right? If you have bottles from glass with silicone nipples you can keep using them, if you're using plastic make sure it's BPA free and switch to the cup method ASAP. Sonja does have some bottles that were gifts and right now we are using them for when I teach art, BUT we are planning on switching to the cup very very soon.
4. Crib. You don't need this, but you do need somewhere safe for your baby to sleep. That can be in bed with you, you can Co-Sleep! It's free, it's safe (if done correctly, see here for more co-sleeping info, from a Doctor!). If you're not into this, there are pack and plays that are great. If you do decide you want a crib, just be aware of the risks, gas-emitting toxins from the bedding, SIDS, suffocation hazards and more.
You can survive the first year of Parenthood with no increase in finances easily. This is how; Breastfeed, Potty Train, use food ingredients for hygiene, olive oil for moisturizers, corn starch for baby powder. If you need something on your baby's bottom, use cloth and you can reuse cloth from around your house, I often use washcloths to insert into Sonja's gdiapers. That saves me doing laundry EVERY day, now I can do it every other day, a total of 4 times a week, which is how often I was doing it before I gave birth. Like I've said so many times before, doing things the natural way is practically free.
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